Buying or selling real estate is an emotional business no matter what, but when you are selling a home that you wish you could keep it is much more emotionally taxing.
I have worked with many clients who are selling their beloved home for a number of reasons: job relocation, need to downsize, moving to a retirement community or divorce. Even when they are excited about the next phase in their life, it can be so difficult to let go of the home that they have loved so much.
I can empathize and understand this intimately as I had to sell my home five years ago. I thought I would live there until I grew old. I had built the home with my own hands and every part of the home was there because I chose it. It was so difficult to walk away from that home, but I did discover some tips and tricks that worked for me and have worked for other clients experiencing an emotionally difficult move.
#1- Redecorate and stage the home specifically for sale. You usually need to do this anyway, but in my case I made this process the opportunity to begin detaching emotionally. As I removed personal items and took down decorations I began moving both physically and emotionally. I painted the interior and moved furniture around. With my items gone, a different color wall and the furniture in a new arrangement it didn’t feel like my home anymore. Now it was a house for sale, a commodity…not a home. It was time to find that new home.
#2- I said goodbye. This may sound goofy because clearly a house can’t hear and doesn’t care who lives within it, but I thanked my house and wished it well with it’s new owners. I said goodbye over and over again.
#3- Small steps. Once the decision has been made to make the move you need to take one thing at a time so that you won’t get overwhelmed. Putting too much on your plate or thinking too far out in the process will cause you anxiety and emotional strain. You do, of course, need to plan and have a strategy in place, but you don’t need to extrapolate on a daily basis.
I met with two clients this week that were experiencing this and after leaving one of them I recorded the following:
